Last week, I began writing about the paradigm shift I have experienced recently.
Here's the shift... I am not responsible for anyone else's happiness...but more than that... no one is responsible for mine. Well, no one but me of course. Conversely, I am not responsible for anyone else's bad attitude...and more than that... no one is responsible for mine. Again, no one but me of course. And I suppose it goes without saying, but I'm saying it anyway... I am completely responsible for my own happiness and my attitude.
I really cannot control how others feel about me...or about themselves. This is hard to even type. A core belief from my childhood sounds something like this:
"If anyone in your life is unhappy it is because you are not 'enough' OR you are 'too much' for them. If anyone in your life is unhappy, that means you should change."
I'm not sure where this came from, but I have believed it in my very soul.
I hope that, in time, I will be satisfied with and confident in who I am. I hope that, in time, I will love what and who I love with no need to explain or defend either.
At the end of last week's Thoughts I started a list of questions that I'll try to answer over the next few weeks. Here's my first stab at one of them.
What would my perfect version of me be like?
Disclaimer...this is my PERFECT version of me. I'm not saying that I EXPECT this to come to fruition. Even so, I think it's good to think about what I WANT to be. One has to have goals.
The perfect version of me would be kind, gentle, loving, patient, peaceful, and full of joy. The perfect version of me would be self-controlled in all areas of my life. The perfect version of me would be faithful, thoughtful, dependable, honorable, and disciplined. Perfect me would take time to rest well, exercise well, and would feed my body nutritious food. Perfect me would be punctual. The perfect version of me would be considerate of others' feelings and needs. My perfect version of me would be characterized by these things... not just sometimes, but consistently. Perfect me would put others needs and wants before my own and would consistently look for ways to share the love and message of Christ with the people in my life.
My perfect version of me would be good... filled with goodness... not just "nice." I'd be good - sweet, loving, tender, considerate, encouraging, uplifting, and kind.
Perfect me would be a lovely blend of boldness, gentleness, peacefulness and passion. Perfect me would be courageous, strong, and steadfast when faced with adversity. Perfect me would face fear and difficulties with calm resolve.
My perfect version of me would radiate a quiet and gentle confidence that draws people in, and leaves them refreshed. Perfect me would leave people better than I found them.
Most of all, "Perfect me" would inspire and encourage the people God puts in my life to live for Him and to strive to be more like Him.
What would "Perfect you" look like?
Just my thoughts,
K
What determines my worth?
What makes me feel happy?
What makes me feel happy?
What is consistently causing me stress?
What do I really enjoy?
What will make my life easier?
What do I NOT enjoy?
When do I feel successful?
When do I feel confident?
What do I LIKE about me?
What do I truly value?
What is holding me back?
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