A couple of weeks ago, I began writing about the paradigm shift I have experienced recently.
Here's the shift... I am not responsible for anyone else's happiness...but more than that... no one is responsible for mine. Well, no one but me of course. Conversely, I am not responsible for anyone else's bad attitude...and more than that... no one is responsible for mine. Again, no one but me of course. And I suppose it goes without saying, but I'm saying it anyway... I am completely responsible for my own happiness and my attitude.
I really cannot control how others feel about me...or about themselves. This is hard to even type. A core belief from my childhood sounds something like this:
"If anyone in your life is unhappy it is because you are not 'enough' OR you are 'too much' for them. If anyone in your life is unhappy, that means you should change."
I'm not sure where this came from, but I have believed it in my very soul.
I hope that, in time, I will be satisfied with and confident in who I am. I hope that, in time, I will love what and who I love with no need to explain or defend either.
I started a list of questions that I'll try to answer them over the next few weeks. Here's this week's question and (hopefully) answer.
What makes me feel happy?
Waterfalls
Ministering to women/girls
Seeing God work in the people I love
Watching my kids grow
Springtime
Autumn
Feeling valued
Overcoming difficult obstacles
Flowers (growing, not in vases)
Doing something others (or I) thought I couldn’t
Painting
Writing
Crocheting
Leaving people better than I found them
Seeing God use my pain for His good
Birds singing
Quiet time alone
The feel and smell of rich dirt
The wind and the feel of the atmosphere before a storm
The sound of rain
The sound of wind chimes
Sunlight dancing through dense foliage
Seeing old friends happy and successful
Being told “Good job”
The sound of ocean waves
“My kids” at church
The warmth of the sun on my skin
Hugs
Being connected to another person’s soul
Music 🎶
Telling my story to someone who has lost hope
Just my thoughts,
K
What makes you happy?
What makes you happy?
What determines my worth?
What is consistently causing me stress?
What is consistently causing me stress?
What do I really enjoy?
What will make my life easier?
What do I NOT enjoy?
When do I feel successful?
When do I feel confident?
What do I LIKE about me?
What do I truly value?
What is holding me back?
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